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Re: Surrogacy

Postby rida fatima » Sun Nov 12, 2017 9:58 pm

hy joeecon,
I want to tell you and share my litle bit knowledge on this withh you.Nowadays, we are lucky that due to technological breakthroughs in this field of science a woman can feel safe knowing that even though another woman is carrying her
child, the surrogate mother never actually had any relations with her spouse. Such things have, in the past, caused battles and feuds between the people involved and it is quite understandable. The technological solution has saved an awful lot of heartache for many families, and this solution has become a blessing for many families now. Intended parents may arrange a surrogate pregnancy because of female infertility or the medical issues which may make the pregnancy or the delivery risky. A female intending parent may also be fertile and healthy, but unwilling to undergo pregnancy due to many reasons for example career reasons, reasons of convenience or a simple fear of or distaste for pregnancy. Many homosexual male couples turn to surrogacy, as their only option for becoming parents, because in many places it is not yet legal for gay couples to
adopt children. Alternatively, the intended parent may be a single male or a single female who is unable to bring a pregnancy to full term.
A ‘surrogate mother' is a woman who agrees to be artificially inseminated with the sperm of a man whose own wife is incapable of conceiving or carrying a child to term. In the typical case, the surrogate mother conceives, carries the child for nine months, gives birth, and then releases her parental rights, giving up the child to the infertile couple for adoption. The agreement between the surrogate mother and the natural father or couple is embodied in a contract, which usually provides for the surrogate mother to receive all medical and living expenses associated with the bearing of the child in addition to a substantial fee.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby rida fatima » Sun Nov 12, 2017 10:03 pm

Further more is that,Use of a surrogate mother to obtain a baby has distinct advantages over regular adoption. For most couples, adopting a desirable infant is generally a long and arduous process. An infertile couple that approaches an adoption agency is likely to encounter a long wait and complex selection process before succeeding in receiving a child. With a surrogate mother arrangement, the couple need to wait only nine months, the normal period of gestation, and can better plan when it would like the child to arrive. A further advantage to surrogate motherhood is that the child is biologically related to the natural father, whereas in regular adoption the child is not related to either parent. Moreover, the parents can choose the surrogate, selecting one with particular features or characteristics they desire. The inability of couples to become parents is often tragic. New technologies and the desire for biologically related children will continually draw some infertile couples towards surrogate motherhood. However, the concept of surrogate motherhood is accompanied by a great deal of moral and ethical controversy. The variety of legislative responses to enforcement of the surrogate mother contracts suggests that there are no easy answers. Surrogacy arrangements have different implications on different societies having distinct culture, social values, religious and social set up etc. But human rights issues relating to surrogacy arrangements have universal character. These issues can be addressed by effectuating the basic human rights through legislation. The human rights instruments should be translated in tune with the current pace of assisted reproductive technologies.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby rida fatima » Sun Nov 12, 2017 10:08 pm

Yes of course surrogacy helps you to achieve your aim.I told you some tips for successful surrogacy.Understand the laws of surrogacy in your state. There are some states where surrogacy is not legal. Consult a local reproductive lawyer. Your clinic or agency will be able to provide recommendations.

2. Choose an Agency! Do not use surrogates off the internet, and go running at the mention of a home insemination. Get several references from others who have used the agency. You get what you pay for. There is a difference between services offered from more and less costly agencies. If you are using a friend or family member as a carrier, put together a team of experts including a lawyer, mental health provider, and reproductive clinic.

3. Whether you are using an agency or a family member or friend, make sure you use an escrow account. It provides reassurance to you and the carrier that the finances will be there and not be pocketed inappropriately.

4. Meet potential surrogacy candidates in person before selecting one to be your carrier. There is so much more you can learn from an in person interview than through phone or internet communication. She will have one of the most important jobs in your child’s life. Don’t skimp on traveling to meet your potential carrier in person.

5. Be open and honest with your surrogate. This is likely a lifelong relationship of some type. Lying today will be there forever.

6. Utilize mental health providers who are a part of the mental health group of the American Society of Reproductive Medicine. Working with infertility is a specialty and not all providers are trained in reproductive psychology. Do not work with a provider or agency that agrees to evaluate a surrogate over the phone. Evaluation must be face to face.

7. Understand your financial obligations to the process and financial risk, especially worst-case scenario.

8. Your surrogate must have medical insurance. Make sure her insurance policy does not have a surrogacy exclusion. Have a lawyer review her policy.

9. Be open to a positive relationship with your surrogate, however it develops. The relationship between intended parents and gestational carrier is the most important part of the process.

10. Let go and be flexible! Realize that this process requires you to give up control of what you would normally have control over, had it not been for infertility. Surrogate-Intended Parent relationships can be ruined by bossy, over reaching intended parents. Practice compassion.
These tips must be helpful to you am sure.....
all the best joeecon .......God bless you....

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby RohmaQ » Mon Nov 20, 2017 9:35 am

"Hellow Joe,
I am glad to know that you survived and got a new life. Though it had affected you in one way, it hasn’t ended your options. You still have so many options to become a mother. You can adopt a baby. You can have your own baby by surrogacy. And as my sister has gone through the same process, I know that the clinic she went two, their services were really good. And according to their policy, you don’t have to worry about the egg donor. All you have to do is give a sample of your eggs and the rest will be their responsibility. They have the highest rate of success as 100% of their cases get success.
If you want, I can share further information about the process. Feel free to ask any question"

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby SilverGrass » Thu Nov 30, 2017 5:17 pm

Hello, dear. First of all, you have to appreciate God that you recovered. Infertility is not that huge problem nowadays. You recovered and it is the most important. There's nothing more important than your life. Now, let's talk about your infertility.
A lot of women are suffering from this problem nowadays. Most of couples prefer adoption. It is cheaper and doesn't need that much examinations as surrogacy. But as for me, it is much better to have your biological baby. That's why my twin boys were born by the surrogate. My husband and me spent 5 years ttc and we gave up. It was too much for us. We've gone through hundreds of treatments and nothing helped. We were ready to adopt but our doctor recommended us to try the surrogacy. We looked through all possible fertility forums and found a lot of positive stories. I was surprised to find out that a lot of women use surrogacy nowadays. Prices are pretty high, but they guarantee almost 100% result. It's true if you choose the most expensive package. It gives you the multiple quantity of embryo transfer tries. This is the main reason why we have chosen this package. We wanted to know for sure that we will have our baby. As I already said, we were lucky to get the double happiness. Our twins were born 9 months ago. It is very hard to be a mother of twins. They sleep in different time. Actually, I have no free time at all. But I am still the happiest woman ever.
So, in your situation you have to find the clinic and enter the program. They will find the surrogate and an egg donor for you. You don't have to do anything on your own. :dance: :dance: :dance:

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby rebecaron82 » Sat Dec 30, 2017 9:12 pm

Hey Joe ! It’s really sad, can imagine the pain you went through. Surrogacy is the best option for you. However it is legal in some countries only. I have also been through this phase of depression when I found out I couldn’t be pregnant because my fallopian tubes are blocked so you can envision I how felt like. One of my friend suggested me this clinic in Ukraine . I assure you they have the best services with affordable cost and a database full of great surrogate mothers. You must look for that clinic _ you would definitely find what you are looking for . All the best ! Much love xx

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby DeeR4 » Sun Jan 28, 2018 11:53 pm

ZiaaK wrote:Hello dear! I'm so sorry you were diagnosed with cancer which made you infertile. I'm in the same situation. We had hard times. But the most important is we're healthy now. We should definitely fight for my happiness. People are constantly asking me why we don't have kids. Some people don't know I had cancer. And I'm not that type of person who would tell about it to everyone I meet. But anyway this is kind of rude to ask such things... After all those questions I feel mad and sad... I wish some people think more about other's feelings. My biggest dream is to have children. I hope surrogacy will change everything.


The same as you, I had cancer of the uterus, in consequence of which all reproductive organs were removed. I try not to think about that period of time. I felt myself miserable. I had no will to live. Despite the fact that I fought the cancer, I couldn't stop thinking about new problem – my inability to have kids. All the time I was hearing that stupid and painful question from relatives and people, who were not aware about my diagnosis, ‘Why don’t you have kids?’ I really tried my best not to be rude and not to scream ‘It’s none of your business!’ in their faces. It was so hard. I can’t remember this without tears in my eyes. But now everything behind and all I hear is how wonderful my son is. My husband and I have gone through surrogacy and we never regret it. It’s the best thing, which happened in our lives and now we are planning to have our second baby.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby luvy » Sun Jan 28, 2018 11:58 pm

DeeR4 wrote:
ZiaaK wrote:Hello dear! I'm so sorry you were diagnosed with cancer which made you infertile. I'm in the same situation. We had hard times. But the most important is we're healthy now. We should definitely fight for my happiness. People are constantly asking me why we don't have kids. Some people don't know I had cancer. And I'm not that type of person who would tell about it to everyone I meet. But anyway this is kind of rude to ask such things... After all those questions I feel mad and sad... I wish some people think more about other's feelings. My biggest dream is to have children. I hope surrogacy will change everything.


The same as you, I had cancer of the uterus, in consequence of which all reproductive organs were removed. I try not to think about that period of time. I felt myself miserable. I had no will to live. Despite the fact that I fought the cancer, I couldn't stop thinking about new problem – my inability to have kids. All the time I was hearing that stupid and painful question from relatives and people, who were not aware about my diagnosis, ‘Why don’t you have kids?’ I really tried my best not to be rude and not to scream ‘It’s none of your business!’ in their faces. It was so hard. I can’t remember this without tears in my eyes. But now everything behind and all I hear is how wonderful my son is. My husband and I have gone through surrogacy and we never regret it. It’s the best thing, which happened in our lives and now we are planning to have our second baby.


I understand you as nobody else. That horrible question just follows me everywhere. I hate it! It drives me crazy, I barely hold back not to punch those, who ask that, in the face. Thank you for telling your story. Your experience gives me hope. May I ask you which clinic did you choose and how much did you pay? Our journey will start soon. It would be so nice to hear some hints and advices from someone who had already undergone surrogacy!

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby mollythehen » Wed Jan 31, 2018 8:43 am

Hello! I am very sorry for condition and it feels so good to see you fight against cancer so bravely, I have seen people who just lose all their interest in life and start to prepare for their last days but the kind of courage and bravery I see in your words I think you will conquer cancer in no time. And don't you worry about having a baby, We should be very very thankful to science for inventing so many new cures. It is totally ok if you can't produce eggs, you can always have donor eggs to make your wish come true and expand your family. I have a list of many nice clinics where they take care of everything, which includes the provision of donor eggs too. Not just that, they will take care of your accommodation, food, and travel too while you stay there and get yourself treated. I have been looking for a surrogacy clinic to with nice packages as I have already wasted a lot of money in getting some other treatments done which all turned into failures. I read a lot about on many forums and from people's personal experience they suggested me to go bioTexCom for my treatment. I searched for this clinic on google and to be honest I am really impressed.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby monapp3 » Wed Jan 31, 2018 4:02 pm

Hey. It is really sad to hear about all this. I hope you are doing well now. Cancer can be tough. So can infertility be, too. I am going through infertility, too. I was hopeless at first. I know it's really hard to accept this. My friends told me to regain hope. They told me to ask my doctor about future plans. My doctor then told me about adoption and surrogacy. I chose surrogacy. It is the closest to having your own baby. I looked for some programs. Came across an amazing one in Ukraine. I have heard they are really good with surrogacy. The one i went to had doctors with 20 years worth of experience, and more. They even let me choose my own surrogate mother. You should look into it. Good luck with everything!

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby mamaby » Thu Feb 01, 2018 6:50 pm

hey there, guys! I'm glad to find such a safe place where we can finally talk about surrogacy which has seemed like a taboo in the past and is still even frowned upon , this might not look like a blessing to some but trust me it is a huge blessed to women like us who are going through infertility and still want to start a family regardless of what life has thrown at us , I really dont want to get into to much detail of my infertility because ive been reassured by my specialist that I can not conceive a child of my own.After spending quite some time in depression I've finally decided to snap out of it with help from my family. Currently looking for some proposals to be responded because as far as I know, it's not even legal in my country. So to start with how do I even bring the child back to my country? there seems to be a lot of confusion. if anyone of you guys could point me in a direction that would be really great. Please if you have ever gone through this phase do let me know. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and I wish you best of luck for your own journey. :)

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby underwateroversky » Fri Feb 02, 2018 12:35 pm

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Hello to everyone! I’m feeling most sorry for you. this is so hard. it is a real tragedy. I understand you very well as a woman who’s in similar situation.
Pull yourself together and go ahead! If you’ve got a husband, you may use pretty cheap offer from Ukraine. I’ve been monitoring Surrogacy Ukrainian ’market‘ for long while. Their additional advantage is that they have plenty of donors and surrogates ready to fast enter the program. thus you really save your time besides the money

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby underwateroversky » Fri Feb 02, 2018 12:41 pm

To all members
Hello guys! I’m pleased to be here and see how many people are free to speak and support each other.
You know there's bunch of places on Internet where we can discuss different topics and extract new knowledge.
I’m planning to pass through surrogacy due to my 'terrible medical picture' and it’ll be great to get some tips. Thank you

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby Amenda1234 » Fri Feb 02, 2018 3:04 pm

Hey there! I am glad you were able to recover from cancer. Also, so sorry to hear about how things went by. Yes surrogacy is a great option that you could opt for. Attached to it is a high rate of success. My sister got this process done in Ukraine after reading such positive comments on different forums. She said it was simple and very easy. Best of luck! Do keep us updated.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby mamaby » Fri Feb 02, 2018 8:21 pm

how are you guys doing though.


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