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Postby joeecan » Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:30 pm

Hello, ladies, I am in so much trouble. I need a piece of advice from you people. Please lend me your suggestions. They would be of great help to me. I am very depressed about not having my babies. I was perfectly fine. All of sudden I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. This disease changed my life forever. It made me infertile. Now I will never be able to have babies of my own. That’s a miserable condition. Although I have recovered from cancer now my infertility is everlasting now. I came to know about surrogacy from my doctor. I hope it will work for me. I am not sure about the procedure. Do we need to choose surrogate mother by our own? The second thing that I need to know is am I supposed to find the egg donor? Is clinic going to help me with that? My ovaries have been removed so I cannot produce eggs!

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby erika joe » Thu Oct 12, 2017 8:03 pm

Sad to read about your situation dear but disappointment is not a solution. Your decision is completely right about surrogacy. As per my knowledge finding egg donors depends on the clinic policies. Every clinic works on different contracts and policies. But a friend of mine recently consulted a clinic. Their policies are feasible for every couple around. Procedure of surrogacy is safe and legal as well. Although I am not fully aware of their terms and conditions yet. But obviously I can get all the information soon as I planning on getting the consultation myself as well. Above all you sound really low you should take care of yourself. Mental health is key factor if you are considering to be a mother. Blaming yourself for a common natural incident is a disbelief. My advice would be to fix a meeting with psychologist first. Through this you would be able to get a new perspective towards life. I hope you find some more helpful information through this platform.

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Postby lily james » Thu Oct 12, 2017 8:14 pm

Yes surrogacy is the best Information is easily available on internet. Managerial staff is professional enough to guide you about every query. On behalf of my personal experience I can ensure you the best possible choice. Doctors and other staff is highly skilled. I mean I can understand what a surrogacy decision is like. There are so many concerns involve but up till now that is the best I came across.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby adney » Fri Oct 13, 2017 5:14 pm

Hi Joeecan, hope you are doing well now. Please get yourself out of the trouble. I know you are worried but there is no need to. It is great that you have recovered from the ovarian cancer. You are blessed. Yes my dear, we all will definitely provide you with the suggestions. The clinic I know about chooses the surrogate mother for you and lets you choose the egg donor. So stop worrying about it. Best of luck my dear.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby Jasmine.Flower » Tue Oct 17, 2017 10:47 am

Hey there! I am feeling very happy for you as you have got a cure from your fatal disease. I know it has left with very bad consequences as you are now not able to have a baby. I can understand your situation that why do you feel so stressed and broken. The thing is that family is completed by the children and without children the life is also incomplete. I hope your husband has always been with you. A few years ago I also came to know that I cannot become a mother. Obviously it was very shocking for me and I was in real pain. I used to cry whole day and wonder what to do know. But all the credit goes to my husband who made it possible for me to get out of this situation. I have been having my treatment since the day I was diagnosed from a heart disease known as Mitral stenosis. I told my friend about all my situation and she told me to go for surrogacy if the treatment still has no success. She told me all the information you want to know. It is the clinic who takes the responsibility of all the matters. You just have to go there for consultation and checkup. After that the clinic will find the surrogate mother and you don’t need to worry about the donation of eggs. They will handle all this. It is a successful process and you should also look for it. I hope my reply finds you well. Take care. 

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby Jasmine.Flower » Tue Oct 17, 2017 10:56 am

Hey ash! I am feeling very happy for you as your hard time is over and you don’t need to suffer the pain of not having a child. Congratulations on having a successful procedure of surrogacy. I also know about the procedure and facilities of this clinic but I was waiting for someone to tell me their personal experience here so I can go for it. Thank God. I cannot believe that I have found useful information through your post. Hope fully I will also go for the surrogacy process. My husband will be really happy when I will tell him all about this process and the clinic. I will be now able to give him the best gift a women can give to his husband. Feeling overwhelmed. Stay blessed.
Hey Joe! I am really depressed to hear about your story. At times like these one wants someone close to share certain words. This forum serves us to share questions and suggestions. First and foremost just forget about the disease for once. Think about moving on. This is how I consoled myself. During my older days when I had the same issue as yours (excluding the ovarian cancer part) I started to do some research on how to get over these low feelings. I finally ended up reading about a clinic in Ukraine. In no time I rushed for it. They offered me with certain programmes to choose for myself. I choose economic surrogacy package for myself. Since my OB had already told me that my body is incapable of giving birth myself so I felt surrogacy would be the best. The reason behind telling all this is that your situation is almost same as mine. If yoi feel like going for it too, let me tell you it is completely safe. All the very best.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby Jasmine.Flower » Tue Oct 17, 2017 11:11 am

Hi Joeecan, hope you are doing well now. Please get yourself out of the trouble. I know you are worried but there is no need to. It is great that you have recovered from the ovarian cancer. You are blessed. Yes my dear, we all will definitely provide you with the suggestions. The clinic I know about chooses the surrogate mother for you and lets you choose the egg donor. So stop worrying about it. Best of luck my dear.
Hi adney. It is good to know that people like you still exist. Your post will definitely be of very help to a lot of women with infertility issues. I recommended the same clinic to joee. Your post made my suggestion much stronger as you have also heard of it. You don’t know how happy I am feeling in replying to your comment. I hope you keep posting such useful content and reply me when you are available. 

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby chirpyaubrey » Fri Oct 27, 2017 7:40 am

Hello Joe. Well done for fighting cancer and I am glad that it is a part of your past now. But I do understand how you are feeling. One of my close friends recently faced the similar problem of infertility and I have seen how much disappointing it can be. The first thing that you should do is, accept infertility and move on. Surrogacy is one of the best options for you to become a mother and have a baby. A well trusted and established surrogacy clinic takes care of all the necessary things that needed to be done including finding an egg donor. It is important to know the success rate of a clinic even before moving forward with the payments. Choose the clinic that has the best facilities and they make sure to find your needs. I hope my advice helped you in some way. Good luck!

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby EmmaSun » Fri Oct 27, 2017 3:19 pm

Your situation is really sad. But I’m glad that you are strong enough to keep looking for the solution. I have never tried the surrogacy but I was going to. I am a mother of 12 years old disabled girl. That’s why we decided to try to surrogacy to give birth to our second baby. I looked through hundreds of forums and all girls say that it is much better to find the reproduction center. So, you don’t have to choose the surrogate on your own. Your coordinator will do it for you. The same I can say about the egg donor. As usual, all the reproduction centers have a big database of surrogates and donors. They help couples to do everything in the right way. I’ve heard that it can be dangerous to look for the surrogate on your own. What if she is not healthy? Or what if she decides to keep the baby? The medical center will protect you in these cases. All their surrogates are 100% healthy and are able to carry the baby. Also, you will sign an agreement. That’s why you will need a lawyer. This agreement will protect you and the baby born if the surrogate decides to keep it.
My daughter is disabled because of the delivery problems. I’m afraid of giving birth again. So, we decided to let some other woman do it for us. I don’t understand why are some couples afraid of the surrogacy. It is absolutely normal and natural way of becoming parents. Unfortunately, it is not legal worldwide. But some countries already do it legally.
If it is not a problem for you, go to Europe. Prices there are more affordable.
Anyway I wish you good luck. I’m sure you will make the right choice. Stay positive and your dream will come true.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby ZiaaK » Fri Oct 27, 2017 10:47 pm

Hello dear! I'm so sorry you were diagnosed with cancer which made you infertile. I'm in the same situation. We had hard times. But the most important is we're healthy now. We should definitely fight for my happiness. People are constantly asking me why we don't have kids. Some people don't know I had cancer. And I'm not that type of person who would tell about it to everyone I meet. But anyway this is kind of rude to ask such things... After all those questions I feel mad and sad... I wish some people think more about other's feelings. My biggest dream is to have children. I hope surrogacy will change everything.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby Louiseeee » Sat Oct 28, 2017 9:20 am

Hi Joeecan, I hope you are doing fine. We all are ready to help you and give you the best possible advices. You should definitely go for surrogacy. Surrogacy procedure has the highest success rate. You dont need to worry about the procedure of surrogacy. It is a very simple procedure without any kind of complications. No, you will not be choosing the surrogate mother yourself. The clinic will help you in doing so. The clinic I had my personal experinece with let me shortlist a few egg donor from a big data base. Itwas the clinic that helped us through each step.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby sarixommann » Sun Oct 29, 2017 11:17 am

Hi Jasmine Flower, I hope you are doing well. I am here to share my personal experience with surrogacy. Just like you, I was worried at first. However, when I actually experienced the procedure, it was too simple. All you have to do is to have few tests before going to the clinic. They will review your reports and will start your procedure accordingly. I will suggest you to go for surrogacy as it has high success rate. Talk to your husband and go for it, my dear. Good Luck.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby davotteffaz » Sun Oct 29, 2017 11:34 am

Hi Joe, Oh my dear, why are you in trouble? We all are here to help you so you need not worry. Just like you, I was also suffering from ovarian cancer and both of my ovaries were removed. Many people told me about surrogacy. I went for it and now I have my three years old. Surrogacy might be of great help in your case. You don’t need to choose a surrogate mother. The clinic will help you to find both donor egg and surrogate mother. The clinic will be guiding you about all the matters related to surrogacy.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby alafino » Sun Oct 29, 2017 11:44 am

Hey, Joey can. The policies regarding the surrogate mother and egg donors vary with each clinic but the clinic I am getting consulation from provides you with a database of a thousand egg donors. You get to choose 5 egg donors and your doctors picks the one with best characteristics for you. In case of SM the clinic finds it for you after getting your husband's sperm samples. It doesn't seem like a lengthy process to me. I have my initial paperwork, some documents and test reports sent to the clinic. Let's see if they approve surrogacy as one best option for me. I am still not sure as my OB wrote a little confusing statement in my medical report of infertility.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby chirpyaubrey » Mon Nov 06, 2017 7:55 am

Hi Joeecan, it's depressing to know that you suffered from an ovarian cancer. But it's good to know that you recovered from it. About your infertility, it is quite a common among so many issues out there and you need not worry about it. You can go for surrogacy definitely and have your children. According to my knowledge, you can choose your surrogate mother and ask her to give you her eggs. If you don't have any woman to help you out with surrogacy, you can talk to your doctor and seek for help. Relax and don't be stressed.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby rida fatima » Sun Nov 12, 2017 9:58 pm

hy joeecon,
I want to tell you and share my litle bit knowledge on this withh you.Nowadays, we are lucky that due to technological breakthroughs in this field of science a woman can feel safe knowing that even though another woman is carrying her
child, the surrogate mother never actually had any relations with her spouse. Such things have, in the past, caused battles and feuds between the people involved and it is quite understandable. The technological solution has saved an awful lot of heartache for many families, and this solution has become a blessing for many families now. Intended parents may arrange a surrogate pregnancy because of female infertility or the medical issues which may make the pregnancy or the delivery risky. A female intending parent may also be fertile and healthy, but unwilling to undergo pregnancy due to many reasons for example career reasons, reasons of convenience or a simple fear of or distaste for pregnancy. Many homosexual male couples turn to surrogacy, as their only option for becoming parents, because in many places it is not yet legal for gay couples to
adopt children. Alternatively, the intended parent may be a single male or a single female who is unable to bring a pregnancy to full term.
A ‘surrogate mother' is a woman who agrees to be artificially inseminated with the sperm of a man whose own wife is incapable of conceiving or carrying a child to term. In the typical case, the surrogate mother conceives, carries the child for nine months, gives birth, and then releases her parental rights, giving up the child to the infertile couple for adoption. The agreement between the surrogate mother and the natural father or couple is embodied in a contract, which usually provides for the surrogate mother to receive all medical and living expenses associated with the bearing of the child in addition to a substantial fee.

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Postby rida fatima » Sun Nov 12, 2017 10:03 pm

Further more is that,Use of a surrogate mother to obtain a baby has distinct advantages over regular adoption. For most couples, adopting a desirable infant is generally a long and arduous process. An infertile couple that approaches an adoption agency is likely to encounter a long wait and complex selection process before succeeding in receiving a child. With a surrogate mother arrangement, the couple need to wait only nine months, the normal period of gestation, and can better plan when it would like the child to arrive. A further advantage to surrogate motherhood is that the child is biologically related to the natural father, whereas in regular adoption the child is not related to either parent. Moreover, the parents can choose the surrogate, selecting one with particular features or characteristics they desire. The inability of couples to become parents is often tragic. New technologies and the desire for biologically related children will continually draw some infertile couples towards surrogate motherhood. However, the concept of surrogate motherhood is accompanied by a great deal of moral and ethical controversy. The variety of legislative responses to enforcement of the surrogate mother contracts suggests that there are no easy answers. Surrogacy arrangements have different implications on different societies having distinct culture, social values, religious and social set up etc. But human rights issues relating to surrogacy arrangements have universal character. These issues can be addressed by effectuating the basic human rights through legislation. The human rights instruments should be translated in tune with the current pace of assisted reproductive technologies.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby rida fatima » Sun Nov 12, 2017 10:08 pm

Yes of course surrogacy helps you to achieve your aim.I told you some tips for successful surrogacy.Understand the laws of surrogacy in your state. There are some states where surrogacy is not legal. Consult a local reproductive lawyer. Your clinic or agency will be able to provide recommendations.

2. Choose an Agency! Do not use surrogates off the internet, and go running at the mention of a home insemination. Get several references from others who have used the agency. You get what you pay for. There is a difference between services offered from more and less costly agencies. If you are using a friend or family member as a carrier, put together a team of experts including a lawyer, mental health provider, and reproductive clinic.

3. Whether you are using an agency or a family member or friend, make sure you use an escrow account. It provides reassurance to you and the carrier that the finances will be there and not be pocketed inappropriately.

4. Meet potential surrogacy candidates in person before selecting one to be your carrier. There is so much more you can learn from an in person interview than through phone or internet communication. She will have one of the most important jobs in your child’s life. Don’t skimp on traveling to meet your potential carrier in person.

5. Be open and honest with your surrogate. This is likely a lifelong relationship of some type. Lying today will be there forever.

6. Utilize mental health providers who are a part of the mental health group of the American Society of Reproductive Medicine. Working with infertility is a specialty and not all providers are trained in reproductive psychology. Do not work with a provider or agency that agrees to evaluate a surrogate over the phone. Evaluation must be face to face.

7. Understand your financial obligations to the process and financial risk, especially worst-case scenario.

8. Your surrogate must have medical insurance. Make sure her insurance policy does not have a surrogacy exclusion. Have a lawyer review her policy.

9. Be open to a positive relationship with your surrogate, however it develops. The relationship between intended parents and gestational carrier is the most important part of the process.

10. Let go and be flexible! Realize that this process requires you to give up control of what you would normally have control over, had it not been for infertility. Surrogate-Intended Parent relationships can be ruined by bossy, over reaching intended parents. Practice compassion.
These tips must be helpful to you am sure.....
all the best joeecon .......God bless you....

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby RohmaQ » Mon Nov 20, 2017 9:35 am

"Hellow Joe,
I am glad to know that you survived and got a new life. Though it had affected you in one way, it hasn’t ended your options. You still have so many options to become a mother. You can adopt a baby. You can have your own baby by surrogacy. And as my sister has gone through the same process, I know that the clinic she went two, their services were really good. And according to their policy, you don’t have to worry about the egg donor. All you have to do is give a sample of your eggs and the rest will be their responsibility. They have the highest rate of success as 100% of their cases get success.
If you want, I can share further information about the process. Feel free to ask any question"

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby SilverGrass » Thu Nov 30, 2017 5:17 pm

Hello, dear. First of all, you have to appreciate God that you recovered. Infertility is not that huge problem nowadays. You recovered and it is the most important. There's nothing more important than your life. Now, let's talk about your infertility.
A lot of women are suffering from this problem nowadays. Most of couples prefer adoption. It is cheaper and doesn't need that much examinations as surrogacy. But as for me, it is much better to have your biological baby. That's why my twin boys were born by the surrogate. My husband and me spent 5 years ttc and we gave up. It was too much for us. We've gone through hundreds of treatments and nothing helped. We were ready to adopt but our doctor recommended us to try the surrogacy. We looked through all possible fertility forums and found a lot of positive stories. I was surprised to find out that a lot of women use surrogacy nowadays. Prices are pretty high, but they guarantee almost 100% result. It's true if you choose the most expensive package. It gives you the multiple quantity of embryo transfer tries. This is the main reason why we have chosen this package. We wanted to know for sure that we will have our baby. As I already said, we were lucky to get the double happiness. Our twins were born 9 months ago. It is very hard to be a mother of twins. They sleep in different time. Actually, I have no free time at all. But I am still the happiest woman ever.
So, in your situation you have to find the clinic and enter the program. They will find the surrogate and an egg donor for you. You don't have to do anything on your own. :dance: :dance: :dance:

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Postby rebecaron82 » Sat Dec 30, 2017 9:12 pm

Hey Joe ! It’s really sad, can imagine the pain you went through. Surrogacy is the best option for you. However it is legal in some countries only. I have also been through this phase of depression when I found out I couldn’t be pregnant because my fallopian tubes are blocked so you can envision I how felt like. One of my friend suggested me this clinic in Ukraine . I assure you they have the best services with affordable cost and a database full of great surrogate mothers. You must look for that clinic _ you would definitely find what you are looking for . All the best ! Much love xx

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Postby DeeR4 » Sun Jan 28, 2018 11:53 pm

Hello dear! I'm so sorry you were diagnosed with cancer which made you infertile. I'm in the same situation. We had hard times. But the most important is we're healthy now. We should definitely fight for my happiness. People are constantly asking me why we don't have kids. Some people don't know I had cancer. And I'm not that type of person who would tell about it to everyone I meet. But anyway this is kind of rude to ask such things... After all those questions I feel mad and sad... I wish some people think more about other's feelings. My biggest dream is to have children. I hope surrogacy will change everything.
The same as you, I had cancer of the uterus, in consequence of which all reproductive organs were removed. I try not to think about that period of time. I felt myself miserable. I had no will to live. Despite the fact that I fought the cancer, I couldn't stop thinking about new problem – my inability to have kids. All the time I was hearing that stupid and painful question from relatives and people, who were not aware about my diagnosis, ‘Why don’t you have kids?’ I really tried my best not to be rude and not to scream ‘It’s none of your business!’ in their faces. It was so hard. I can’t remember this without tears in my eyes. But now everything behind and all I hear is how wonderful my son is. My husband and I have gone through surrogacy and we never regret it. It’s the best thing, which happened in our lives and now we are planning to have our second baby.

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Postby luvy » Sun Jan 28, 2018 11:58 pm

Hello dear! I'm so sorry you were diagnosed with cancer which made you infertile. I'm in the same situation. We had hard times. But the most important is we're healthy now. We should definitely fight for my happiness. People are constantly asking me why we don't have kids. Some people don't know I had cancer. And I'm not that type of person who would tell about it to everyone I meet. But anyway this is kind of rude to ask such things... After all those questions I feel mad and sad... I wish some people think more about other's feelings. My biggest dream is to have children. I hope surrogacy will change everything.
The same as you, I had cancer of the uterus, in consequence of which all reproductive organs were removed. I try not to think about that period of time. I felt myself miserable. I had no will to live. Despite the fact that I fought the cancer, I couldn't stop thinking about new problem – my inability to have kids. All the time I was hearing that stupid and painful question from relatives and people, who were not aware about my diagnosis, ‘Why don’t you have kids?’ I really tried my best not to be rude and not to scream ‘It’s none of your business!’ in their faces. It was so hard. I can’t remember this without tears in my eyes. But now everything behind and all I hear is how wonderful my son is. My husband and I have gone through surrogacy and we never regret it. It’s the best thing, which happened in our lives and now we are planning to have our second baby.
I understand you as nobody else. That horrible question just follows me everywhere. I hate it! It drives me crazy, I barely hold back not to punch those, who ask that, in the face. Thank you for telling your story. Your experience gives me hope. May I ask you which clinic did you choose and how much did you pay? Our journey will start soon. It would be so nice to hear some hints and advices from someone who had already undergone surrogacy!

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby mollythehen » Wed Jan 31, 2018 8:43 am

Hello! I am very sorry for condition and it feels so good to see you fight against cancer so bravely, I have seen people who just lose all their interest in life and start to prepare for their last days but the kind of courage and bravery I see in your words I think you will conquer cancer in no time. And don't you worry about having a baby, We should be very very thankful to science for inventing so many new cures. It is totally ok if you can't produce eggs, you can always have donor eggs to make your wish come true and expand your family. I have a list of many nice clinics where they take care of everything, which includes the provision of donor eggs too. Not just that, they will take care of your accommodation, food, and travel too while you stay there and get yourself treated. I have been looking for a surrogacy clinic to with nice packages as I have already wasted a lot of money in getting some other treatments done which all turned into failures. I read a lot about on many forums and from people's personal experience they suggested me to go bioTexCom for my treatment. I searched for this clinic on google and to be honest I am really impressed.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby monapp3 » Wed Jan 31, 2018 4:02 pm

Hey. It is really sad to hear about all this. I hope you are doing well now. Cancer can be tough. So can infertility be, too. I am going through infertility, too. I was hopeless at first. I know it's really hard to accept this. My friends told me to regain hope. They told me to ask my doctor about future plans. My doctor then told me about adoption and surrogacy. I chose surrogacy. It is the closest to having your own baby. I looked for some programs. Came across an amazing one in Ukraine. I have heard they are really good with surrogacy. The one i went to had doctors with 20 years worth of experience, and more. They even let me choose my own surrogate mother. You should look into it. Good luck with everything!

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby mamaby » Thu Feb 01, 2018 6:50 pm

hey there, guys! I'm glad to find such a safe place where we can finally talk about surrogacy which has seemed like a taboo in the past and is still even frowned upon , this might not look like a blessing to some but trust me it is a huge blessed to women like us who are going through infertility and still want to start a family regardless of what life has thrown at us , I really dont want to get into to much detail of my infertility because ive been reassured by my specialist that I can not conceive a child of my own.After spending quite some time in depression I've finally decided to snap out of it with help from my family. Currently looking for some proposals to be responded because as far as I know, it's not even legal in my country. So to start with how do I even bring the child back to my country? there seems to be a lot of confusion. if anyone of you guys could point me in a direction that would be really great. Please if you have ever gone through this phase do let me know. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and I wish you best of luck for your own journey. :)

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby underwateroversky » Fri Feb 02, 2018 12:35 pm

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Hello to everyone! I’m feeling most sorry for you. this is so hard. it is a real tragedy. I understand you very well as a woman who’s in similar situation.
Pull yourself together and go ahead! If you’ve got a husband, you may use pretty cheap offer from Ukraine. I’ve been monitoring Surrogacy Ukrainian ’market‘ for long while. Their additional advantage is that they have plenty of donors and surrogates ready to fast enter the program. thus you really save your time besides the money

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby underwateroversky » Fri Feb 02, 2018 12:41 pm

To all members
Hello guys! I’m pleased to be here and see how many people are free to speak and support each other.
You know there's bunch of places on Internet where we can discuss different topics and extract new knowledge.
I’m planning to pass through surrogacy due to my 'terrible medical picture' and it’ll be great to get some tips. Thank you

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby Amenda1234 » Fri Feb 02, 2018 3:04 pm

Hey there! I am glad you were able to recover from cancer. Also, so sorry to hear about how things went by. Yes surrogacy is a great option that you could opt for. Attached to it is a high rate of success. My sister got this process done in Ukraine after reading such positive comments on different forums. She said it was simple and very easy. Best of luck! Do keep us updated.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby mamaby » Fri Feb 02, 2018 8:21 pm

how are you guys doing though.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby mollythehen » Sat Feb 03, 2018 8:54 am

Hello. It is so sad to read your story. I hope that no one goes through what you are going through right now. But you are a very strong woman, even after all of this you are still looking for ways to get a baby and complete your family and believe me once you get to have your family you will feel a lot much better. And you are very lucky to be born in this modern age. Surrogacy is the best option for you and you should not wait anymore. I know of a clinic, they provide donor eggs which makes everything easy for you. You can always go there and get started with getting your happiness. Look up for BioTexCom and you will find out a lot more about surrogacy. The clinic will provide you with some very nice packages and will look after you completely while you are there. They will take care of your accommodation, food, and travel while you stay there to get your treatment done by some very fine doctors.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby prero_na18 » Wed Jun 06, 2018 2:05 pm

Hello and welcome to the forum. Sorry about your news of infertility but it is great that you are taking up the option of surrogacy. Surrogacy is completely safe and quite successful. Do pick a good clinic to get it done from. They do let you choose the donor and the surrogate mother. Your doctor will guide you through the whole procedure. Make sure your surrogate mother takes care of yourself and the baby. All the very best and hoping for the best results. Take care.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby kawai » Wed Jun 13, 2018 2:54 pm

Hi darling! All that you said is terrible. How are you passing through these harrowing trials?
I can’t imagine how you are now. Hope everything is going to be all right. Bad things used to happen.
We should always be ready. Actually it’s not fair to advise distantly. You’ll manage these troubles well.
I’m sure you just need to me strong. I myself know how cancer can destroy happiness. There’s perhaps nothing more difficult in the world to overcome.
This illness took my children’s father away. He was amazing and strong man. It spares no one.
He suffered from prostate cancer. It was in such active form. I saw how my husband was merely fading.
That was unbelievably hard to feel. Your biggest love disappears with him. You just can’t help or stop it.
He died in two years. We’ll be remembering him forever. You should try hard and keep alive!
Now I’m married for the second time. It took almost 9 years for me to begin living full life. I’m not young and my husband wants having a baby.
He’s actually younger than me. I understood him. It’s a regular desire for a man to have his own children.
That’s coherently. I said to him I couldn’t be pregnant. I’m afraid.
I fear many things. I don’t want to jeopardize myself. My heart doesn’t work as it did it 10 years ago.
Nobody wants to die during pregnancy. I’m afraid of losing a baby. I don’t want to get pregnant after 17 years without it.
It’s dangerous. He agreed. We started looking for options.
The internet offers surrogacy. Before I couldn’t know how many people already had got surrogacy journeys.
Most of them are successful. I’m not at the stage of learning details regarding countries and clinics.
It was my huge discovery to find fertility forums. Such communities teach me to me franker and opener.
I’m learning from someone’s experience. I like watching how different people help each other. It’s all about support and care.
I love it. I guess you shouldn’t worry about egg donors. Most clinics have their own storages.
I know it for sure. Many official sites are telling this. Just move on girl!

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby kawai » Wed Jun 13, 2018 3:41 pm

Hey! Don’t give up. There’s no reason for it at all.
People gain their happiness through incredible troubles. You should know it. That’s not the end.
I will not mention particular clinics. You can easily do it on your own. Happily, we have a huge spectrum of different options.
There are various clinics all over the world. It’s a good business. Managers establish such facilities everywhere where it’s permitted.
Surely, it’s hard to determine which is better and trustworthy. It’s another question. You’ll have to spend some time for investigation.
First of all, decide which part of world is closer to your house. Are you ready to fly overseas with the newborns? I know the newborns endure even long flights well.
That’s not a big issue. There are more other different ones. Ovarian cancer is now’s plague.
I know too many ladies suffering form this disease. Perhaps the number of people struggling with cancer is increasing. Most say that infertility as such is also increasing intensively.
It’s actually the good news for fertility clinics. Basically it’s contraindicated to stimulate women after cancer. It may harm your body.
A real specialist won’t do it even if there’s possibility to get eggs. The doctors are responsible for you. We remember it and trust them.
Be sure, such clinics have egg donors. Some of clinics are working with fresh materials. You’ll find such without a problem.
Surrogacy with using donor eggs is a regular procedure now. Maybe it’s not that regular. But clinics prefer using donor eggs as they are more confident in those quality.
They don’t want to get involved in endless attempts. It costs too much for both parties. What are your priorities?
Those who are accustomed to paradise service choose USA. They can find a lot of advantages there. People who focus on result could choose other options
Happily, world is offering too much of them. We’re free to choose. Sometimes the one problem depends on money.
It doesn’t cost friendly.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby kawai » Wed Jun 13, 2018 4:36 pm

One thing you must be careful with agencies. There are more agencies then official clinics established. Some of them are really skillful in fraud.
You can contact directly with clinics. Sometimes the difference is that clinics can’t help you with exit process. Anyway there are proper among clinics.
They are independent. Such facilities provide you with everything needed. As well they help you with paperwork without helping of agency.
Such clinics have got hired interpreters. You’ll not get in trouble with foreign barrier. The interpreter is your helping hand in dealing with environment.
You will definitely face with other different details. We can’t make you fully prepared. Wish you to find a clinic that you’ll be able to trust.
Don’t consider America in case you have financial problems. It always costs expensively. Know it in advance.
One fat plus is that your baby will be the citizen of US. It’s cool indeed. If you’re from US, you’ll have the other motivation.
It’s latterly cheaper to fly for fertility journey from the USA to Europe. I swear. Many people from Canada and USA do this annually.
Some of them have other treatment there after journey. The service of a dentist and cardiologist is also cheaper.
I’d love to attach one photo. There was statistics model in it. You’d see where most infertile people go for treatment today.
Unfortunately, I don’t remember the site where I was watching it. Keep on using forums. They might be really helpful.
Have you ever registered on health unlocked or fertility friends UK? There is much useful information too. People are browsing through this ocean of forums to find the answer.
It helps people to find like-minded persons. It’s the way to get support. Most of us are friendly to each other.
Many serious problems could be solved there. I think you know it by yourself. Tell us about that how you are doing.
I wish you to have your journey safe. Necessarily keep us updated. Good luck!

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby chirpyaubrey » Wed Nov 28, 2018 12:50 pm

Hi dear, I feel so sad to hear about your situation. This is the harshest thing that can ever happen to a woman. Infertility is devastating. So in spite of thinking anything else go for an adoption. Yes please do not be stressed, it is a good thing for a family planning in spite of all the hurdles. So go for surrogacy, without much fuss.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby AngelinaRanier » Wed May 13, 2020 1:42 pm

Hello, everyone! A lot is written here about surrogate motherhood in Ukraine. I have my real experience in the Ukrainian clinic. I'll try to write about everything in more detail. We were scared and we couldn't decide on this step for a long time, but we were really satisfied. First, we talked to a doctor on Skype and took the stimulation course remotely - we were explained everything in detail. Later, we had a full embryo diagnostics, our package included the possibility to choose the sex of the child. The husband dreamed of a son, so we chose a boy. It was not very important to me. We chose a surrogate mother ourselves, but it was not difficult - all mothers are beautiful, healthy and adequate there. They are carefully examined, valued and respectfully treated. During pregnancy they are provided with everything: housing, food, clothing. For me it was very important, because I read on the Internet horrors about the exploitation of women. In my opinion, everything turned out quite quickly, after signing the contract, a month after the stimulation our embryo was already transferred. Despite the success of the first attempt, the pregnancy was complicated, and our surrogate mother Natasha was even lying in the hospital. We were very worried. Several times we were sent a report on how the pregnancy was going - an ultrasound photo and an amateur video, how our surrogate mother was doing the ultrasound. There was a feeling of being there, it was awesome. Then we were invited to attend the birth. The births were successful and without problems. After the birth we were given a nanny, we were under constant supervision of a nurse. From Ukraine itself we have mixed feelings. On the one hand it is a European state, on the other - a lot left of the Soviet Union there. There was no language barrier. We had a driver and an interpreter (hello Ksenia and Volodya) so we could go shopping and walk around the city. We were accommodated in a good hotel when we came to Ukraine. We only spent our money on our own purchases and tickets to and from Ukraine. Everything else, including restaurant food, was included in the package price. After the birth of the child we were placed in a separate apartment, with cleaning service twice a week, but we already paid for food ourselves.
Now about the documents. A couple of days after discharge from the hospital, we already had a birth certificate in which my husband and I were recorded as the only parents. Then the lawyers of the clinic prepared an apostille and translation of the certificate and the refusal of the surrogate mother from the child in favor of my husband. In addition, they prepared a lot of documents there: passports, contracts, various certificates, they did it all themselves, we were not particularly worried, we were with the baby. In terms of time, it all lasted a little less than a month. On arrival home, the clinic gave us a lawyer, who helped us already here to pass the procedure of simplified adoption.
I tried to write everything in detail, but if you still have questions, I'll be happy to answer.


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