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Postby C.G. » Fri Apr 17, 2015 10:03 am

As a follow on from a comment Mosty has made, and a point made before.

Kingy doesn't mind - it's a labour saving device. ;) I don't think using one makes you want sex less, quite the reverse in fact. I had an ex who didn't want me to use a vibrator and to be honest, it was one of the reasons I left him. I found it controlling and insecure.

Sometimes I think women (and men) just want to have an orgasm quickly, get in and out, no muss no fuss. It's actually a totally different thing to sex quite often, more a tension release. It also helps period pain.

As for the assertion that it is somehow being unfaithful and that you should "offer yourself up to your partner first", I find that very off-putting and of another era. My partner doesn't own my body, it was mine first. Of course it would be unreasonable if you never wanted to have sex with your partner because ya just preferred the sex toy ;) ........ but then that's when I think it would be justification to either leave or look elsewhere. :dance:
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Postby zilt » Fri Apr 17, 2015 11:42 am

For someone to use the phrase "Ain't I enough for ya?" is nothing short of egotistical, do people really think they are the sole source of their partner's sexual pleasure? Variety is the spice of life, so it's nice to have an outlet other than one's partner for sexual satisfaction; besides, libido's aren't always in synch with each other. If you watch the Simpsons you may remember one episode where Homer goes out of his way to be attentive to Marge, even going as far as cutting her hair for her, and Marge explains how she needs some time alone, and how married couples don't need to spend every moment side by side.
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Postby Denny916 » Fri Apr 17, 2015 8:06 pm

Gives a guy a night off to do important things like go to the pub or watch football so it can't be bad.
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Postby C.G. » Fri Apr 17, 2015 8:23 pm

Until they make penile implants that vibrate I shall be using sex toys. ;)

Sex toys don't fart or care if they are satisfied. :D
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Postby Julie-Anne » Fri Apr 17, 2015 8:26 pm

They really shouldn't. Sex and masturbation are completely different things.

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Postby C.G. » Fri Apr 17, 2015 8:28 pm

They really shouldn't. Sex and masturbation are completely different things.
Absolutely agree. And before anyone starts, you can't censor fantasies whilst you're doing it either. ;) :evil:
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Postby Winston Smith » Fri Apr 17, 2015 9:42 pm

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit. It is one of the most erotic things I could witness and the sex afterwards is always excellent. Her orgasms are always more powerful with the toy than they are with me but do I care? Do I f*ck.
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Postby Lucylastic » Fri Apr 17, 2015 10:04 pm

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
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Postby WTF? » Fri Apr 17, 2015 10:08 pm

Doesn't bother me. It's quite fun using one on a partner.
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Postby DanMc » Fri Apr 17, 2015 10:40 pm

Sounds like you're all doing it like er...... rabbits.
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Postby C.G. » Sat Apr 18, 2015 12:05 am

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit. It is one of the most erotic things I could witness and the sex afterwards is always excellent. Her orgasms are always more powerful with the toy than they are with me but do I care? Do I f*ck.
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Postby C.G. » Sat Apr 18, 2015 12:06 am

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
To paraphrase Starshine, the rabbit is the cement mixer in the bedroom.
Rabbit doesn't do it for me. It doesn't line up right somehow. No doubt because I have a bucket fanny ;)
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Postby mostirreverent » Sat Apr 18, 2015 6:26 am

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
To paraphrase Starshine, the rabbit is the cement mixer in the bedroom.
But it can't make you want to come like a man can.

I don't mind them in the bed when I'm there…but I'm sure it dissuade many that are on the fence regarding a willingness for full on sex. imaging kinda wanting it, and having the choice of a guy, or a "quicker than fingers" orgasm, then sleep…

And yes, I am a proponent of a partners right of first refusal.
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Postby mostirreverent » Sat Apr 18, 2015 6:37 am

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
To paraphrase Starshine, the rabbit is the cement mixer in the bedroom.
Rabbit doesn't do it for me. It doesn't line up right somehow. No doubt because I have a bucket fanny ;)
maybe it is pressed agains something that doesn't exist :D
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Postby Evelyn » Sat Apr 18, 2015 7:54 am

Some men too love it, but it is no the same for all.

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Postby Starshine » Sat Apr 18, 2015 8:42 am

:x
I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
To paraphrase Starshine, the rabbit is the cement mixer in the bedroom.
Lucy understands me but in case there has been any confusion elsewhere, I was reffering to the noise rabbits make. Plus they are also quite heavy for a prlonged session.

I travel for work a lot with a fair number of overnight stays. I always take a vibey with me to assist relaxation after a busy day! Always! I want a gentle hum not off putting clunking.

Small can be beautiful and if someone objected to my toys it would be him and not my toys that I would throw out of the pram.

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Postby C.G. » Sat Apr 18, 2015 8:48 am

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
To paraphrase Starshine, the rabbit is the cement mixer in the bedroom.
But it can't make you want to come like a man can.

I don't mind them in the bed when I'm there…but I'm sure it dissuade many that are on the fence regarding a willingness for full on sex. imaging kinda wanting it, and having the choice of a guy, or a "quicker than fingers" orgasm, then sleep…

And yes, I am a proponent of a partners right of first refusal.
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Postby WTF? » Sat Apr 18, 2015 9:11 am

In some ways I would liken a woman with a toy to a man having a wank. A wank can be very nice, but it's so much better with a partner.

I suppose I might feel slightly disconcerted if the toy in question needed two postmen to carry it from the van to the front door when it was delivered, but otherwise I'm OK with it. The fact that c0cks don't vibrate is just one of my exhaustive list of reasons against intelligent design in life.
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Postby C.G. » Sat Apr 18, 2015 9:29 am

In some ways I would liken a woman with a toy to a man having a wank. A wank can be very nice, but it's so much better with a partner.

I suppose I might feel slightly disconcerted if the toy in question needed two postmen to carry it from the van to the front door .
Or was indeed the two postmen.....
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Postby WTF? » Sat Apr 18, 2015 9:38 am

In some ways I would liken a woman with a toy to a man having a wank. A wank can be very nice, but it's so much better with a partner.

I suppose I might feel slightly disconcerted if the toy in question needed two postmen to carry it from the van to the front door .
Or was indeed the two postmen.....
Yes. I would object to that in the strongest possible terms.
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Postby Winston Smith » Sat Apr 18, 2015 11:36 am

I assumed my wife also used her rabbit when I'm not around but she said she doesn't and masturbates normally. She said she only likes using the rabbit as part of sex and that it doesn't feel the same on her own.
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Postby Starshine » Sat Apr 18, 2015 7:45 pm

I assumed my wife also used her rabbit when I'm not around but she said she doesn't and masturbates normally. She said she only likes using the rabbit as part of sex and that it doesn't feel the same on her own.
Hmmmm! I wonder! Some things we don't always tell.

I previously posted a pic of my toys in this thread here (5th post down)

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/view ... hilit=omax

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Postby C.G. » Sat Apr 18, 2015 9:43 pm


Hmmmm! I wonder! Some things we don't always tell.
I absolutely think that is the case. You can be too honest with men and then they go soft. ;)

As for size, yes, for clitoral stimulation, I like something small. I HATE things that are supposed to look like someone's c0ck that has been chopped off, for want of a better phrase. :shock:

It is a TOTALLY different thing to sex. And I think often W**nking is for a man too.
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Postby Winston Smith » Sat Apr 18, 2015 11:28 pm


Hmmmm! I wonder! Some things we don't always tell.
I absolutely think that is the case. You can be too honest with men and then they go soft. ;)

As for size, yes, for clitoral stimulation, I like something small. I HATE things that are supposed to look like someone's c0ck that has been chopped off, for want of a better phrase. :shock:

It is a TOTALLY different thing to sex. And I think often W**nking is for a man too.
I have no reason to disbelieve my wife. She is perfectly honest with me. She even makes me keep the rabbit in my bedside drawer and not hers and waits for me to ask if she wants it. She has often told me that she is vanilla when it comes to sex and relies on my lead. When she goes, she goes, but not without my encouragement.
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But it can't make you want to come like a man can.

I don't mind them in the bed when I'm there…but I'm sure it dissuade many that are on the fence regarding a willingness for full on sex. imaging kinda wanting it, and having the choice of a guy, or a "quicker than fingers" orgasm, then sleep…

And yes, I am a proponent of a partners right of first refusal.

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Yes it can.

Masturbation isn't sex, no one has "first right" to anything, if a woman wants to have a masty on her own she's quite entitled to and if her partner isn't ok with that he's a juvenile idiot.
Same goes if a woman gets jealous of a man having a wank. that's f*cked. You don't own him / her.
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Postby zilt » Sun Apr 19, 2015 9:08 am

Gives a guy a night off to do important things like go to the pub or watch football so it can't be bad.
There's better things to watch than football. :wink:

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Postby Starshine » Sun Apr 19, 2015 11:00 am

To return to the subject at hand (I may have been guilty for deviating slightly anyway) I have come across a number of men who felt threatened by the presence of a vibey or even my vibey ownership. The same people who disliked me going topless on the beach. Surprise, surprise? I think not.

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Postby C.G. » Sun Apr 19, 2015 11:05 am

To return to the subject at hand (I may have been guilty for deviating slightly anyway) I have come across a number of men who felt threatened by the presence of a vibey or even my vibey ownership. The same people who disliked me going topless on the beach. Surprise, surprise? I think not.
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Postby Red head mum » Sun Apr 19, 2015 11:07 am

it's never bothered my partner that i sometimes use them if anything it roused his curiosity and he just wanted to watch when he first seen my one x
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Postby Starshine » Sun Apr 19, 2015 11:56 am

To return to the subject at hand (I may have been guilty for deviating slightly anyway) I have come across a number of men who felt threatened by the presence of a vibey or even my vibey ownership. The same people who disliked me going topless on the beach. Surprise, surprise? I think not.
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Postby mostirreverent » Mon Apr 20, 2015 1:02 am

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
To paraphrase Starshine, the rabbit is the cement mixer in the bedroom.
But it can't make you want to come like a man can.

I don't mind them in the bed when I'm there…but I'm sure it dissuade many that are on the fence regarding a willingness for full on sex. imaging kinda wanting it, and having the choice of a guy, or a "quicker than fingers" orgasm, then sleep…

And yes, I am a proponent of a partners right of first refusal.
You REALLY don't understand women at all. :lol:
I would never jerk off if my partner was awake, willing, and present
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Postby mostirreverent » Mon Apr 20, 2015 1:06 am


Hmmmm! I wonder! Some things we don't always tell.
I absolutely think that is the case. You can be too honest with men and then they go soft. ;)
Only some. Except for faking. Do it, and get the F*** out of my bed. If your not going to come, just tap me on the shoulder...
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But it can't make you want to come like a man can.

I don't mind them in the bed when I'm there…but I'm sure it dissuade many that are on the fence regarding a willingness for full on sex. imaging kinda wanting it, and having the choice of a guy, or a "quicker than fingers" orgasm, then sleep…

And yes, I am a proponent of a partners right of first refusal.

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Yes it can.

Masturbation isn't sex, no one has "first right" to anything, if a woman wants to have a masty on her own she's quite entitled to and if her partner isn't ok with that he's a juvenile idiot.
Same goes if a woman gets jealous of a man having a wank. that's f*cked. You don't own him / her.
then you've been with the wrong men :D

it's not f*cked up if the partner is available. it is cheating
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Postby C.G. » Mon Apr 20, 2015 10:53 am

Sigh.
It isn't cheating. Which century are you living in? Sex isn't a right in a relationship and you don't own your partner. ;)
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Postby mostirreverent » Tue Apr 21, 2015 2:31 am

Sigh.
It isn't cheating. Which century are you living in? Sex isn't a right in a relationship and you don't own your partner. ;)
try telling that to anyone not in an open or quasi open relationship. "Yeah, she was sucking my C0ck, but it's my C***, and you're not in control of it" Or less extreme, "Of course I was jerking off for her…"
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Postby mostirreverent » Tue Apr 21, 2015 2:34 am

Sigh.
It isn't cheating. Which century are you living in? Sex isn't a right in a relationship and you don't own your partner. ;)
no need to wink, I don't mind if you are frustrated with my views, or even don't agree. :oops: :shock: :la:
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Postby Chudleigh » Tue Apr 21, 2015 1:43 pm

I don't understand the tension.... perhaps everyone should have a wank.


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