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Men: does it bother you that your partner uses a sex toy?

Postby C.G. » Fri Apr 17, 2015 10:03 am

As a follow on from a comment Mosty has made, and a point made before.

Kingy doesn't mind - it's a labour saving device. ;) I don't think using one makes you want sex less, quite the reverse in fact. I had an ex who didn't want me to use a vibrator and to be honest, it was one of the reasons I left him. I found it controlling and insecure.

Sometimes I think women (and men) just want to have an orgasm quickly, get in and out, no muss no fuss. It's actually a totally different thing to sex quite often, more a tension release. It also helps period pain.

As for the assertion that it is somehow being unfaithful and that you should "offer yourself up to your partner first", I find that very off-putting and of another era. My partner doesn't own my body, it was mine first. Of course it would be unreasonable if you never wanted to have sex with your partner because ya just preferred the sex toy ;) ........ but then that's when I think it would be justification to either leave or look elsewhere. :dance:
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Re: Men: does it bother you that your partner uses a sex toy

Postby zilt » Fri Apr 17, 2015 11:42 am

For someone to use the phrase "Ain't I enough for ya?" is nothing short of egotistical, do people really think they are the sole source of their partner's sexual pleasure? Variety is the spice of life, so it's nice to have an outlet other than one's partner for sexual satisfaction; besides, libido's aren't always in synch with each other. If you watch the Simpsons you may remember one episode where Homer goes out of his way to be attentive to Marge, even going as far as cutting her hair for her, and Marge explains how she needs some time alone, and how married couples don't need to spend every moment side by side.
As I've mentioned before, my wife and I have an understanding: she doesn't complain about me watching pornos, and I don't complain about her using sex toys.

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Re: Men: does it bother you that your partner uses a sex toy

Postby Denny916 » Fri Apr 17, 2015 8:06 pm

Gives a guy a night off to do important things like go to the pub or watch football so it can't be bad.
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Postby C.G. » Fri Apr 17, 2015 8:23 pm

Until they make penile implants that vibrate I shall be using sex toys. ;)

Sex toys don't fart or care if they are satisfied. :D
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Re: Men: does it bother you that your partner uses a sex toy

Postby Julie-Anne » Fri Apr 17, 2015 8:26 pm

They really shouldn't. Sex and masturbation are completely different things.

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Postby C.G. » Fri Apr 17, 2015 8:28 pm

They really shouldn't. Sex and masturbation are completely different things.
Absolutely agree. And before anyone starts, you can't censor fantasies whilst you're doing it either. ;) :evil:
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Re: Men: does it bother you that your partner uses a sex toy

Postby Winston Smith » Fri Apr 17, 2015 9:42 pm

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit. It is one of the most erotic things I could witness and the sex afterwards is always excellent. Her orgasms are always more powerful with the toy than they are with me but do I care? Do I f*ck.
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Postby Lucylastic » Fri Apr 17, 2015 10:04 pm

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
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Re: Men: does it bother you that your partner uses a sex toy

Postby WTF? » Fri Apr 17, 2015 10:08 pm

Doesn't bother me. It's quite fun using one on a partner.
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Postby DanMc » Fri Apr 17, 2015 10:40 pm

Sounds like you're all doing it like er...... rabbits.
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Postby C.G. » Sat Apr 18, 2015 12:05 am

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit. It is one of the most erotic things I could witness and the sex afterwards is always excellent. Her orgasms are always more powerful with the toy than they are with me but do I care? Do I f*ck.
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Postby C.G. » Sat Apr 18, 2015 12:06 am

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
To paraphrase Starshine, the rabbit is the cement mixer in the bedroom.
Rabbit doesn't do it for me. It doesn't line up right somehow. No doubt because I have a bucket fanny ;)
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Postby mostirreverent » Sat Apr 18, 2015 6:26 am

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
To paraphrase Starshine, the rabbit is the cement mixer in the bedroom.
But it can't make you want to come like a man can.

I don't mind them in the bed when I'm there…but I'm sure it dissuade many that are on the fence regarding a willingness for full on sex. imaging kinda wanting it, and having the choice of a guy, or a "quicker than fingers" orgasm, then sleep…

And yes, I am a proponent of a partners right of first refusal.
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Postby mostirreverent » Sat Apr 18, 2015 6:37 am

I absolutely love it when my wife uses her rabbit.
To paraphrase Starshine, the rabbit is the cement mixer in the bedroom.
Rabbit doesn't do it for me. It doesn't line up right somehow. No doubt because I have a bucket fanny ;)
maybe it is pressed agains something that doesn't exist :D
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Re: Men: does it bother you that your partner uses a sex toy

Postby Evelyn » Sat Apr 18, 2015 7:54 am

Some men too love it, but it is no the same for all.


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