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PrudenceMay
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Decipher this:

Postby PrudenceMay » Tue Feb 13, 2018 6:21 am

Hi there!

Im new here

I cant figure out what I am. Like what my sexuality is.

21 yr old female

I have only ever had relationships with men and I have never been consenually sexual with a woman before,
HOWEVER
Almost every fantasy I have is with a woman.
The idea of a woman going down on me makes me kimd of uncomfortable, but the idea of going down on another woman makes me feel incredible. I crave it. I constantly want to suck on nipples and the idea of running my hands on a womans body really gets me going.
ON THE OTHER HAND
I have dreams of marrying men and having children. In my dreams I have sex with men. Being in a relationship with a woman doesnt sound appealing as I dont typically get along with girls very well.
I have no idea what to make of all of this.
Growing up i kind of thought oh it will go away
But it never has

Any advice helps!

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Re: Decipher this:

Postby Starshine » Tue Feb 13, 2018 12:28 pm

I have answered this post in the Pink Lounge. We get several questions like this on here and people sadly vanish again before anyone can respond. So, I hope you stay around.

It’s also good not to duplicate the same post in different sections.

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Re: Decipher this:

Postby PrudenceMay » Tue Feb 13, 2018 12:51 pm

Starshine wrote:I have answered this post in the Pink Lounge. We get several questions like this on here and people sadly vanish again before anyone can respond. So, I hope you stay around.

It’s also good not to duplicate the same post in different sections.


Sorry for the duplicate post, once I had already posted on the Love&Sex forum I saw the Pink Lounge and thought it better suited there, and realized we cannot delete old posts.

I do plan to stay awhile, as I have plenty more questions where that came from lol.

Thank you for being kind

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Re: Decipher this:

Postby Starshine » Tue Feb 13, 2018 4:17 pm

PrudenceMay wrote:
Starshine wrote:I have answered this post in the Pink Lounge. We get several questions like this on here and people sadly vanish again before anyone can respond. So, I hope you stay around.

It’s also good not to duplicate the same post in different sections.


Sorry for the duplicate post, once I had already posted on the Love&Sex forum I saw the Pink Lounge and thought it better suited there, and realized we cannot delete old posts.

I do plan to stay awhile, as I have plenty more questions where that came from lol.

Thank you for being kind


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Re: Decipher this:

Postby Jean-Louise » Tue Feb 13, 2018 5:09 pm

PrudenceMay wrote:Hi there!

Im new here

I cant figure out what I am. Like what my sexuality is.

21 yr old female

I have only ever had relationships with men and I have never been consenually sexual with a woman before,
HOWEVER
Almost every fantasy I have is with a woman.
The idea of a woman going down on me makes me kimd of uncomfortable, but the idea of going down on another woman makes me feel incredible. I crave it. I constantly want to suck on nipples and the idea of running my hands on a womans body really gets me going.
ON THE OTHER HAND
I have dreams of marrying men and having children. In my dreams I have sex with men. Being in a relationship with a woman doesnt sound appealing as I dont typically get along with girls very well.
I have no idea what to make of all of this.
Growing up i kind of thought oh it will go away
But it never has

Any advice helps!


You have to figure out who you are.
I am not one to like labels.
Just let your life unravel as it will.
Love other first for who they are, not what gender they are.

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Re: Decipher this:

Postby light1313 » Tue Feb 13, 2018 6:25 pm

I'm not gay but as much as I find the female figure very attractive I also fantasize about women and women's bodies and I fantasize about flirting with them and touching a woman sexually, while the thought of being touched in a sexual way by a woman doesnt arouse me, and I dont masturbate to the thought. I figured that my fantasies have more to do with my unfulfilled desires as a woman. When I fantasize about giving a woman the best date or best sex she has ever had, because being a woman I understand just what she wants, its just me indirectly fantasizing about having my own needs fulfilled. Dont know if this relates?

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Re: Decipher this:

Postby emilycurious » Tue Feb 13, 2018 7:13 pm

If you see Kay
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Re: Decipher this:

Postby mostirreverent » Wed Feb 14, 2018 5:09 am

light1313 wrote:I'm not gay but as much as I find the female figure very attractive I also fantasize about women and women's bodies and I fantasize about flirting with them and touching a woman sexually, while the thought of being touched in a sexual way by a woman doesnt arouse me, and I dont masturbate to the thought. I figured that my fantasies have more to do with my unfulfilled desires as a woman. When I fantasize about giving a woman the best date or best sex she has ever had, because being a woman I understand just what she wants, its just me indirectly fantasizing about having my own needs fulfilled. Dont know if this relates?

It could also be that you just like your own parts, and the the fantasy is an extension of that
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Re: Decipher this:

Postby PrudenceMay » Sat Feb 17, 2018 10:01 pm

light1313 wrote:I'm not gay but as much as I find the female figure very attractive I also fantasize about women and women's bodies and I fantasize about flirting with them and touching a woman sexually, while the thought of being touched in a sexual way by a woman doesnt arouse me, and I dont masturbate to the thought. I figured that my fantasies have more to do with my unfulfilled desires as a woman. When I fantasize about giving a woman the best date or best sex she has ever had, because being a woman I understand just what she wants, its just me indirectly fantasizing about having my own needs fulfilled. Dont know if this relates?

It TOTALLY relates!! However, I do watch lesbian porn and fantasize about it. I was close to being intimate with a girl a couple of times but got too uncomfortable and didnt let it happen. That is what I want to do though, absolutely fulfill another womans needs and desires.

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Re: Decipher this:

Postby Jean-Louise » Mon Feb 19, 2018 2:45 pm

Labels. Who needs them?

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Re: Decipher this:

Postby mostirreverent » Tue Feb 20, 2018 5:18 am

Jean-Louise wrote:Labels. Who needs them?

Jars
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Re: Decipher this:

Postby bunnyloves69 » Tue Feb 20, 2018 6:33 am

You MAY be a bit bi. Just go along with the flow. I imagine in time you will settle in a niche that will make you comfortable and fulfilled.

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Re: Decipher this:

Postby Jean-Louise » Tue Feb 20, 2018 2:40 pm

PrudenceMay wrote:Hi there!

Im new here

I cant figure out what I am. Like what my sexuality is.

21 yr old female

I have only ever had relationships with men and I have never been consenually sexual with a woman before,
HOWEVER
Almost every fantasy I have is with a woman.
The idea of a woman going down on me makes me kimd of uncomfortable, but the idea of going down on another woman makes me feel incredible. I crave it. I constantly want to suck on nipples and the idea of running my hands on a womans body really gets me going.
ON THE OTHER HAND
I have dreams of marrying men and having children. In my dreams I have sex with men. Being in a relationship with a woman doesnt sound appealing as I dont typically get along with girls very well.
I have no idea what to make of all of this.
Growing up i kind of thought oh it will go away
But it never has

Any advice helps!


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