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joeecan
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Surrogacy

Postby joeecan » Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:30 pm

Hello, ladies, I am in so much trouble. I need a piece of advice from you people. Please lend me your suggestions. They would be of great help to me. I am very depressed about not having my babies. I was perfectly fine. All of sudden I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. This disease changed my life forever. It made me infertile. Now I will never be able to have babies of my own. That’s a miserable condition. Although I have recovered from cancer now my infertility is everlasting now. I came to know about surrogacy from my doctor. I hope it will work for me. I am not sure about the procedure. Do we need to choose surrogate mother by our own? The second thing that I need to know is am I supposed to find the egg donor? Is clinic going to help me with that? My ovaries have been removed so I cannot produce eggs!

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby erika joe » Thu Oct 12, 2017 8:03 pm

Sad to read about your situation dear but disappointment is not a solution. Your decision is completely right about surrogacy. As per my knowledge finding egg donors depends on the clinic policies. Every clinic works on different contracts and policies. But a friend of mine recently consulted a clinic. Their policies are feasible for every couple around. Procedure of surrogacy is safe and legal as well. Although I am not fully aware of their terms and conditions yet. But obviously I can get all the information soon as I planning on getting the consultation myself as well. Above all you sound really low you should take care of yourself. Mental health is key factor if you are considering to be a mother. Blaming yourself for a common natural incident is a disbelief. My advice would be to fix a meeting with psychologist first. Through this you would be able to get a new perspective towards life. I hope you find some more helpful information through this platform.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby lily james » Thu Oct 12, 2017 8:14 pm

Yes surrogacy is the best Information is easily available on internet. Managerial staff is professional enough to guide you about every query. On behalf of my personal experience I can ensure you the best possible choice. Doctors and other staff is highly skilled. I mean I can understand what a surrogacy decision is like. There are so many concerns involve but up till now that is the best I came across.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby adney » Fri Oct 13, 2017 5:14 pm

Hi Joeecan, hope you are doing well now. Please get yourself out of the trouble. I know you are worried but there is no need to. It is great that you have recovered from the ovarian cancer. You are blessed. Yes my dear, we all will definitely provide you with the suggestions. The clinic I know about chooses the surrogate mother for you and lets you choose the egg donor. So stop worrying about it. Best of luck my dear.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby Jasmine.Flower » Tue Oct 17, 2017 10:47 am

Hey there! I am feeling very happy for you as you have got a cure from your fatal disease. I know it has left with very bad consequences as you are now not able to have a baby. I can understand your situation that why do you feel so stressed and broken. The thing is that family is completed by the children and without children the life is also incomplete. I hope your husband has always been with you. A few years ago I also came to know that I cannot become a mother. Obviously it was very shocking for me and I was in real pain. I used to cry whole day and wonder what to do know. But all the credit goes to my husband who made it possible for me to get out of this situation. I have been having my treatment since the day I was diagnosed from a heart disease known as Mitral stenosis. I told my friend about all my situation and she told me to go for surrogacy if the treatment still has no success. She told me all the information you want to know. It is the clinic who takes the responsibility of all the matters. You just have to go there for consultation and checkup. After that the clinic will find the surrogate mother and you don’t need to worry about the donation of eggs. They will handle all this. It is a successful process and you should also look for it. I hope my reply finds you well. Take care. 

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby Jasmine.Flower » Tue Oct 17, 2017 10:56 am

Hey ash! I am feeling very happy for you as your hard time is over and you don’t need to suffer the pain of not having a child. Congratulations on having a successful procedure of surrogacy. I also know about the procedure and facilities of this clinic but I was waiting for someone to tell me their personal experience here so I can go for it. Thank God. I cannot believe that I have found useful information through your post. Hope fully I will also go for the surrogacy process. My husband will be really happy when I will tell him all about this process and the clinic. I will be now able to give him the best gift a women can give to his husband. Feeling overwhelmed. Stay blessed.

Ashbrown wrote:Hey Joe! I am really depressed to hear about your story. At times like these one wants someone close to share certain words. This forum serves us to share questions and suggestions. First and foremost just forget about the disease for once. Think about moving on. This is how I consoled myself. During my older days when I had the same issue as yours (excluding the ovarian cancer part) I started to do some research on how to get over these low feelings. I finally ended up reading about a clinic in Ukraine. In no time I rushed for it. They offered me with certain programmes to choose for myself. I choose economic surrogacy package for myself. Since my OB had already told me that my body is incapable of giving birth myself so I felt surrogacy would be the best. The reason behind telling all this is that your situation is almost same as mine. If yoi feel like going for it too, let me tell you it is completely safe. All the very best.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby Jasmine.Flower » Tue Oct 17, 2017 11:11 am

adney wrote:Hi Joeecan, hope you are doing well now. Please get yourself out of the trouble. I know you are worried but there is no need to. It is great that you have recovered from the ovarian cancer. You are blessed. Yes my dear, we all will definitely provide you with the suggestions. The clinic I know about chooses the surrogate mother for you and lets you choose the egg donor. So stop worrying about it. Best of luck my dear.


Hi adney. It is good to know that people like you still exist. Your post will definitely be of very help to a lot of women with infertility issues. I recommended the same clinic to joee. Your post made my suggestion much stronger as you have also heard of it. You don’t know how happy I am feeling in replying to your comment. I hope you keep posting such useful content and reply me when you are available. 

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby chirpyaubrey » Fri Oct 27, 2017 7:40 am

Hello Joe. Well done for fighting cancer and I am glad that it is a part of your past now. But I do understand how you are feeling. One of my close friends recently faced the similar problem of infertility and I have seen how much disappointing it can be. The first thing that you should do is, accept infertility and move on. Surrogacy is one of the best options for you to become a mother and have a baby. A well trusted and established surrogacy clinic takes care of all the necessary things that needed to be done including finding an egg donor. It is important to know the success rate of a clinic even before moving forward with the payments. Choose the clinic that has the best facilities and they make sure to find your needs. I hope my advice helped you in some way. Good luck!

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby EmmaSun » Fri Oct 27, 2017 3:19 pm

Your situation is really sad. But I’m glad that you are strong enough to keep looking for the solution. I have never tried the surrogacy but I was going to. I am a mother of 12 years old disabled girl. That’s why we decided to try to surrogacy to give birth to our second baby. I looked through hundreds of forums and all girls say that it is much better to find the reproduction center. So, you don’t have to choose the surrogate on your own. Your coordinator will do it for you. The same I can say about the egg donor. As usual, all the reproduction centers have a big database of surrogates and donors. They help couples to do everything in the right way. I’ve heard that it can be dangerous to look for the surrogate on your own. What if she is not healthy? Or what if she decides to keep the baby? The medical center will protect you in these cases. All their surrogates are 100% healthy and are able to carry the baby. Also, you will sign an agreement. That’s why you will need a lawyer. This agreement will protect you and the baby born if the surrogate decides to keep it.
My daughter is disabled because of the delivery problems. I’m afraid of giving birth again. So, we decided to let some other woman do it for us. I don’t understand why are some couples afraid of the surrogacy. It is absolutely normal and natural way of becoming parents. Unfortunately, it is not legal worldwide. But some countries already do it legally.
If it is not a problem for you, go to Europe. Prices there are more affordable.
Anyway I wish you good luck. I’m sure you will make the right choice. Stay positive and your dream will come true.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby ZiaaK » Fri Oct 27, 2017 10:47 pm

Hello dear! I'm so sorry you were diagnosed with cancer which made you infertile. I'm in the same situation. We had hard times. But the most important is we're healthy now. We should definitely fight for my happiness. People are constantly asking me why we don't have kids. Some people don't know I had cancer. And I'm not that type of person who would tell about it to everyone I meet. But anyway this is kind of rude to ask such things... After all those questions I feel mad and sad... I wish some people think more about other's feelings. My biggest dream is to have children. I hope surrogacy will change everything.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby Louiseeee » Sat Oct 28, 2017 9:20 am

Hi Joeecan, I hope you are doing fine. We all are ready to help you and give you the best possible advices. You should definitely go for surrogacy. Surrogacy procedure has the highest success rate. You dont need to worry about the procedure of surrogacy. It is a very simple procedure without any kind of complications. No, you will not be choosing the surrogate mother yourself. The clinic will help you in doing so. The clinic I had my personal experinece with let me shortlist a few egg donor from a big data base. Itwas the clinic that helped us through each step.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby sarixommann » Sun Oct 29, 2017 11:17 am

Hi Jasmine Flower, I hope you are doing well. I am here to share my personal experience with surrogacy. Just like you, I was worried at first. However, when I actually experienced the procedure, it was too simple. All you have to do is to have few tests before going to the clinic. They will review your reports and will start your procedure accordingly. I will suggest you to go for surrogacy as it has high success rate. Talk to your husband and go for it, my dear. Good Luck.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby davotteffaz » Sun Oct 29, 2017 11:34 am

Hi Joe, Oh my dear, why are you in trouble? We all are here to help you so you need not worry. Just like you, I was also suffering from ovarian cancer and both of my ovaries were removed. Many people told me about surrogacy. I went for it and now I have my three years old. Surrogacy might be of great help in your case. You don’t need to choose a surrogate mother. The clinic will help you to find both donor egg and surrogate mother. The clinic will be guiding you about all the matters related to surrogacy.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby alafino » Sun Oct 29, 2017 11:44 am

Hey, Joey can. The policies regarding the surrogate mother and egg donors vary with each clinic but the clinic I am getting consulation from provides you with a database of a thousand egg donors. You get to choose 5 egg donors and your doctors picks the one with best characteristics for you. In case of SM the clinic finds it for you after getting your husband's sperm samples. It doesn't seem like a lengthy process to me. I have my initial paperwork, some documents and test reports sent to the clinic. Let's see if they approve surrogacy as one best option for me. I am still not sure as my OB wrote a little confusing statement in my medical report of infertility.

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Re: Surrogacy

Postby chirpyaubrey » Mon Nov 06, 2017 7:55 am

Hi Joeecan, it's depressing to know that you suffered from an ovarian cancer. But it's good to know that you recovered from it. About your infertility, it is quite a common among so many issues out there and you need not worry about it. You can go for surrogacy definitely and have your children. According to my knowledge, you can choose your surrogate mother and ask her to give you her eggs. If you don't have any woman to help you out with surrogacy, you can talk to your doctor and seek for help. Relax and don't be stressed.


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