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Looking for women's advice regarding foreplay

Postby Bearded-viking » Mon Apr 10, 2017 10:34 am

Hi, first time posting here so hopefully I can find some answers.

The reason for this post is simple, I wish to give my fiancé what she deserves in the bedroom and that's nothing short of everything!

Now we have been together for around 6 years and have a little boy, outside the bedroom we have seemingly a perfect relationship we have never argued or had a fight, we share interests and friends we just love life and laugh all the time. Inside the bedroom too we have a very healthy sex life and keep things fresh as much as we can. However I feel like she deserves more from me which Is a concept I'm sure many men don't struggle with like I do.

I give my fiancé the complete princess treatment in and out of the bedroom, I paint her nails do her hair give massages buy her gifts take her out on all manner of weird and wonderful dates and we are head over heels in love.

Im here purely to learn or at least gain some guidance on where I could learn more about foreplay. Now I've done my research I understand the differences in approach to sex between men and women and I have also learnt the full 18 parts of the clitoral network, something I have to say I knew very little about. I understand there is more at work in a woman's sexual experience than simply thrusting away and finishing. I understand the need for emotional and physical stimulation to allow her to climax.

So if any of you board members have any pointers or books that might be of help that I could read to further my knowledge of foreplay and the emotional side of things I would be very appreciative.

Thanks

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Re: Looking for women's advice regarding foreplay

Postby Starshine » Wed Apr 12, 2017 7:36 am

What a kind, considerate and well written piece.

I'm afraid I can't suggest any books. As you are aware though, people do not come with instruction manuals. Aside from pleny of oral, the best gift you have is communication. I would suggest you discuss in a candid loving way both needs and wants. It sounds to me that you have the right relationship to do this.

Best wishes x

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Re: Looking for women's advice regarding foreplay

Postby bunnyhabit » Fri Apr 21, 2017 5:42 am

foreplay and afterplay is very important to me especially afterplay. i hate it when a guy gets off in me and then jumps off and leaves the bed or falls asleep. i like when a guy chats, kisses and fondles me after coming in me. often afterplay results in us having intercourse again. to me only animals should walk away right after mating i expect more respect than a beast being breeded by a male. my current boyfriend is great at foreplay and afterplay making me lust for sex every day with him.
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Re: Looking for women's advice regarding foreplay

Postby mostirreverent » Sun Jul 09, 2017 3:04 am

you are researching too much and not using your imagination or hers (and input) enough. most of the clitoral network is not available to you, and some of it is tangentially.

Try things
Watch for a reaction
Ask or discuss her feelings about what you did.

Remember, her orgasms are partly up to her too, be it body or mind. You can only facilitate for the most part
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Re: Looking for women's advice regarding foreplay

Postby Skittle68 » Mon Jul 10, 2017 12:15 am

I know firsthand how hard it can be to find out what someone likes, but you just have to ask. Maybe she doesn't even really like clit stimulation (unlikely, but have you asked?). Without talking to her, we can't give you advice on how to make foreplay better. We are all different.

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Re: Looking for women's advice regarding foreplay

Postby Jean-Louise » Mon Jul 10, 2017 2:25 pm

Starshine wrote:What a kind, considerate and well written piece.

I'm afraid I can't suggest any books. As you are aware though, people do not come with instruction manuals. Aside from pleny of oral, the best gift you have is communication. I would suggest you discuss in a candid loving way both needs and wants. It sounds to me that you have the right relationship to do this.

Best wishes x


Oral sex and oral communication. I agree this is what most women want. If you do those things well, you will be a good lover and a good friend.

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Re: Looking for women's advice regarding foreplay

Postby BoozySuzie » Wed Jul 19, 2017 2:48 pm

Go on the internet and watch videos. Honestly the best advice I could give. Not porn, but there will be "how to" out there.
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Re: Looking for women's advice regarding foreplay

Postby mostirreverent » Thu Jul 20, 2017 2:35 am

Just do what you enjoy doing. chances are they will like it or tell you to "slow down, not so hard, to the left etc"
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